Best Position
Where am I in our relationship?
Months before the wedding, brides and grooms are not only
confronted by the issues of the preparation but of pivotal situations that
evokes personal introspections. Although, they may be well prepared already of
the daunting tasks of marriage life, one can’t help but question. Am I ready to
let go of being single and embrace a new life status?
These moments are crucial for newlyweds. This is the point
where the couple fully establishes mutual agreements for the future. Planning
ahead will spare everyone from quarreling, blaming, bickering and headaches.
These topics are also partly discussed during the Pre-Marriage Counseling
session during application for Marriage License.
 |
| Photo courtesy
|
Where to Start
I once heard a joke from a friend that “Married” status is
actually similar to ‘It’s Complicated” status. Start-ups are the most
complicated of all things. While still reeling on the after effects of wedding
preparations, the time has come to ask for “what now”. Where do we begin? Only
to realize that there is really no existing standard or process to start a
family. The choice depends on the priorities of the couple.
Old practices suggest that married couples usually start in
building their dream homes. This particularly applied on affluent families who
offered dowry or gave out house and lots as wedding gifts. There a few who
already invested in buying their house and lots prior to settling down. For
them, the home symbolizes the foundation of their dreams together.
But this is not the case now for the median or below median
families. Buying a house would mean getting married also to long-term debt.
This is only a personal opinion and not to demean those who are in real-estate
business. Some would say that you need to invest now since properties are
selling like hotcakes and could be very costly in the future. This statement
however is practical only for those with enough money to buy in cash. I will
explain this further on future posts.
Where to Live After
Marriage
Oftentimes, couples who have not purchased yet a house would
debate on where to live. So before the wedding, make sure that this has been
decided already. Family influence could also play a role in the decision. In-laws
relationships are tricky, too. Maintaining healthy relationships with them are
often times challenging.
 |
| Photo from the movie Monster-in-law courtesy of
|
Although, not all in-laws are as horrible as the ones
depicted in television series and Maalaala
Mo Kaya (local tv series). It depends on the wife or the husband on how to
establish harmonious interactions with them. Humility, obedience and fair
judgment are most of the times helpful in dealing with in-laws. There might be
times where in-laws will interfere with the couple’s decisions. Make sure to
hear them out first to maintain respect but it would always be the couple who
would have the last say on things.
Comments
Post a Comment